MEET TAMAR

 

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In the last 10 years, I’ve had seven jobs.  There, I said it.  I didn’t meet my now husband till I was 37, after most of my friends and peers were long married with children.  And I struggled with my body image and weight for most of my adult life.  I’ve come to realize throughout the last decade that a few of my well-honed strengths are adaptability, comfort with ambiguity/uncertainty and reinvention.  I had jobs that ranged from personal chef, freelance consultant to nonprofit executive and director of sales.  I dated dozens of dudes until I sat next to a tall handsome dude at Table 11.  And I endured years of restrictive diets and analysis before I let go of that way of being.  With classroom education in psychology, policy analysis, nutrition and neuro-linguistic programming as well as life experience, I found that hitting the curveballs out of the park requires a conscious learning, and a lot of unlearning of beliefs, ideas and expectations.

Why I became a coach:

If you’d told me ten years ago that I’d be a life coach and transition specialist, I would have laughed in your face. I own it now because now I know I was born to do this work.  For many years I denied it, but I was always interested in what makes people tick.  I majored in psychology and did an honors thesis on people’s perceptions of people with AIDS. I knew that working with people one on one was something that excited me, but I thought the path to that was to earn a PhD in clinical psychology, and I saw a friend with excellent grades get rejection after rejection to clinical psychology programs, so I ruled out that route.

After college, I worked in fundraising for an AIDS nonprofit organization and then went to graduate school to study public policy.  It was there that I became interested in education reform, which then led to becoming a middle school teacher in New York City and working at an arts-education nonprofit.  I was and still am, passionate about the idea that education is the great equalizer and can change the stakes for children who grow up without a lot of advantages.  Teachers are my heroes and idols.  I didn’t stay in K-12 teaching but I worked for education-related nonprofit organizations for more than a decade.

In the midst of my career advancement, there were little signs that I was suited for something else.  I enrolled in a yoga teacher certification program, I discovered hypnotherapy which worked more quickly and profoundly than therapy ever had for me… and I became fascinated with the link between spirituality and well-being.  I also got very curious about how food affects us in all areas of our lives and how our choices affect animals and the environment.  I adopted a plant-based diet and learned how to make vegetables taste amazing.  I saw how food changed not just my physical health, but my overall outlook on life as well.

I enrolled in the Institute of Integrative Nutrition where I studied various dietary theories, physiological processes, spirituality and more.  In the very beginning of my coaching career, I focused on energy and nutrition, but as I completed training in transformational coaching and saw how it affected my first clients, I realized that the things I’ve learned and the things I’m here to teach are more expansive than advice about food and nutrition.  The teacher in me knows that experiences and modeling are more influential than anything else.  So I continue to prioritize self-care, self-compassion, subconscious change work, and more in myself, and emphasize these processes with my clients.  As I walk through life and learn more, I’m able to heal myself and support my clients to heal themselves simply by bringing all of my light and their light to the center of each interaction.

What I value:

  • Surrender: inviting life to flow with ease
  • Let love in (it’s the way to surrender)
  • Shine. That’s my job.  That’s your job. It’s not about polishing the outside. You and I are made of divine light. There’s nothing to do, it’s just there. The resources to shine come from inside.
  • Dive deep. Depth is where it’s at. If you’re really living, you’re going deep in all ways – pain, bliss, all of it.
  • Choose peace over panic

My credentials:

I am a board certified holistic health practitioner via the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and the American Association of Drugless Practitioners.  I’m certified in the Transformational Coaching Method (TCM) and in the Belief Breakthrough Method, an NLP-based program.  I possess a Bachelor of Arts degree in psychology from University of California, Berkeley and a Master of Public Administration degree from Columbia University.

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How do I coach?

1)  When you are dealing with a curveball, it’s important to ask yourself the question “What do I really want?”  Maybe it’s not what you thought you had wanted.  Together we discover what you DO want:  Many of us aren’t clear about what we really want. It’s colored so heavily by what other people want for us or what we think we should want, that our true desires get colluded and obscured.  Being able to get clear on what we want (even if it changes!) is an exciting and necessary first step in co-creating the life you want.  Don’t know how to get clear?  I’ll show you.

2)  Instead of attempting to fix, we upgrade.  How?  By shining the light on subconscious beliefs:  Did you know that often what’s getting in your way of getting the life you want are beliefs that were basically “planted” in you when you were very young OR that you developed as a young child.  Why?  They were useful at the time, and may be less so now.  I’ll show you how to figure out what these are and replace them with useful beliefs that will impact everything you do and believe about yourself and your life.

3)  Create a game plan:  Once you know what you want and you know what might’ve been stopping you from getting it, you can create and implement useful actions and behaviors that are in complete alignment with the outcomes you want.  The game plan can change because we aren’t in control of the curveballs, but the tools and strategies can stand on their own and support you solidly.

All of this magic happens when we integrate the mind/body/spirit or the emotional, physical and spiritual.  These are not mutually exclusive and actually work together in tandem.

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